Absalom

Royal Family Member

Son of King David and his wife Maacah, who rebelled against David and tried to become king.

About Absalom

The son of King David and his wife Maacah (2 Samuel 3:3). The name is also spelled Abishalom (1 Kings 15:2, 10). Absalom was a handsome young prince who was famous for his long, full hair (2 Samuel 14:2526). He had a beautiful sister, Tamar, who was raped by their half-brother Amnon. After dishonoring Tamar, Amnon refused to marry her (2 Samuel 13:120).

Absalom took his wounded sister into his own house. He expected his father, David, to punish Amnon for his act of incest. After two years of simmering rage and hatred, Absalom planned his revenge. He gave a feast for King David and his princes at his country home. David did not attend, but Amnon did and was murdered by Absalom’s servants after Absalom got him drunk. Absalom was afraid of King David’s anger, so he escaped across the Jordan River to King Talmai of Geshur, his mother’s father (2 Samuel 13:2139).

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Family Relationships

Parents
David, Maacah (2 Samuel 3:3)
Sibling
Tamar
Half-siblings 19
Amnon, Chileab, Adonijah (Son of David), Shephatiah, Ithream, Shammua (2 Samuel 5:14), Shobab, Nathan, Solomon, Ibhar, Elishua, Nepheg (2 Samuel 5:15), Japhia (2 Samuel 5:15), Elishama (2 Samuel 5:16), Eliada, Eliphelet, Elpelet, Nogah, Jerimoth (2 Chronicles 11:18)
Child
Tamar (2 Samuel 14:27)
Nieces & Nephews 5
Mattatha, Taphath, Basemath (1 Kings 4:15), Rehoboam, Mahalath (2 Chronicles 11:18)
Aunts 2
Zeruiah, Abigail (Sister of King David)
Uncles 7
Eliab (Son of Jesse), Abinadab (Son of Jesse), Shimeah, Nethanel (1 Chronicles 2:14), Raddai, Ozem, Elihu (1 Chronicles 27:18)
Cousins 6
Abihail (Daughter of Eliab), Jonadab, Abishai, Joab, Asahel, Amasa

Key References

2 Samuel 3:3

his second was Chileab, by Abigail the widow of Nabal of Carmel; his third was Absalom, the son of Maacah daughter of King Talmai of Geshur;

2 Samuel 14:25

Now there was not a man in all Israel as handsome and highly praised as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the top of his head, he did not have a single flaw.

2 Samuel 15:10

Then Absalom sent spies throughout the tribes of Israel with this message: “When you hear the sound of the horn, you are to say, ‘Absalom reigns in Hebron!’”

2 Samuel 18:9

Now Absalom was riding on his mule when he met the servants of David, and as the mule went under the thick branches of a large oak, Absalom’s head was caught fast in the tree. The mule under him kept going, so that he was suspended in midair.

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2 Samuel (83)
2 Samuel 3:3

his second was Chileab, by Abigail the widow of Nabal of Carmel; his third was Absalom, the son of Maacah daughter of King Talmai of Geshur;

2 Samuel 13:1

After some time, David’s son Amnon fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of David’s son Absalom.

2 Samuel 13:4

and he asked Amnon, “Why are you, the son of the king, so depressed morning after morning? Won’t you tell me?” Amnon replied, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”

2 Samuel 13:20

Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has your brother Amnon been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Do not take this thing to heart.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in the house of her brother Absalom.

2 Samuel 13:22

And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad, because he hated Amnon for violating his sister Tamar.

2 Samuel 13:23

Two years later, when Absalom’s sheepshearers were at Baal-hazor near Ephraim, he invited all the sons of the king.

2 Samuel 13:24

And he went to the king and said, “Your servant has just hired shearers. Will the king and his servants please come with me?”

2 Samuel 13:25

“No, my son,” the king replied, “we should not all go, or we would be a burden to you.” Although Absalom urged him, he was not willing to go, but gave him his blessing.

2 Samuel 13:26

“If not,” said Absalom, “please let my brother Amnon go with us.” “Why should he go with you?” the king asked.

2 Samuel 13:27

But Absalom urged him, so the king sent Amnon and the rest of his sons.

2 Samuel 13:28

Now Absalom had ordered his young men, “Watch Amnon until his heart is merry with wine, and when I order you to strike Amnon down, you are to kill him. Do not be afraid. Have I not commanded you? Be courageous and valiant!”

2 Samuel 13:29

So Absalom’s young men did to Amnon just as Absalom had ordered. Then all the other sons of the king got up, and each one fled on his mule.

2 Samuel 13:30

While they were on the way, a report reached David: “Absalom has struck down all the sons of the king; not one of them is left!”

2 Samuel 13:32

But Jonadab, the son of David’s brother Shimeah, spoke up: “My lord must not think they have killed all the sons of the king, for only Amnon is dead. In fact, Absalom has planned this since the day Amnon violated his sister Tamar.

2 Samuel 13:34

Meanwhile, Absalom had fled. When the young man standing watch looked up, he saw many people coming down the road west of him, along the side of the hill. And the watchman went and reported to the king, “I see men coming from the direction of Horonaim, along the side of the hill.”

2 Samuel 13:37

Now Absalom fled and went to Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. But David mourned for his son every day.

2 Samuel 13:38

After Absalom had fled and gone to Geshur, he stayed there three years.

2 Samuel 13:39

And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he had been consoled over Amnon’s death.

2 Samuel 14:1

Now Joab son of Zeruiah perceived that the king’s heart longed for Absalom.

2 Samuel 14:21

Then the king said to Joab, “I hereby grant this request. Go, bring back the young man Absalom.”

2 Samuel 14:23

So Joab got up, went to Geshur, and brought Absalom to Jerusalem.

2 Samuel 14:24

But the king added, “He may return to his house, but he must not see my face.” So Absalom returned to his own house, but he did not see the face of the king.

2 Samuel 14:25

Now there was not a man in all Israel as handsome and highly praised as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the top of his head, he did not have a single flaw.

2 Samuel 14:27

Three sons were born to Absalom, and a daughter named Tamar, who was a beautiful woman.

2 Samuel 14:28

Now Absalom lived in Jerusalem two years without seeing the face of the king.

2 Samuel 14:29

Then he sent for Joab to send him to the king, but Joab refused to come to him. So Absalom sent a second time, but Joab still would not come.

2 Samuel 14:30

Then Absalom said to his servants, “Look, Joab’s field is next to mine, and he has barley there. Go and set it on fire!” And Absalom’s servants set the field on fire.

2 Samuel 14:31

Then Joab came to Absalom’s house and demanded, “Why did your servants set my field on fire?”

2 Samuel 14:32

“Look,” said Absalom, “I sent for you and said, ‘Come here. I want to send you to the king to ask: Why have I come back from Geshur? It would be better for me if I were still there.’ So now, let me see the king’s face, and if there is iniquity in me, let him kill me.”

2 Samuel 14:33

So Joab went and told the king, and David summoned Absalom, who came to him and bowed facedown before him. Then the king kissed Absalom.

2 Samuel 15:1

Some time later, Absalom provided for himself a chariot with horses and fifty men to run ahead of him.

2 Samuel 15:2

He would get up early and stand beside the road leading to the city gate. Whenever anyone had a grievance to bring before the king for a decision, Absalom would call out and ask, “What city are you from?” And if he replied, “Your servant is from one of the tribes of Israel,”

2 Samuel 15:3

Absalom would say, “Look, your claims are good and right, but the king has no deputy to hear you.”

2 Samuel 15:4

And he would add, “If only someone would appoint me judge in the land, then everyone with a grievance or dispute could come to me, and I would give him justice.”

2 Samuel 15:6

Absalom did this to all the Israelites who came to the king for justice. In this way he stole the hearts of the men of Israel.

2 Samuel 15:7

After four years had passed, Absalom said to the king, “Please let me go to Hebron to fulfill a vow I have made to the LORD.

2 Samuel 15:10

Then Absalom sent spies throughout the tribes of Israel with this message: “When you hear the sound of the horn, you are to say, ‘Absalom reigns in Hebron!’”

2 Samuel 15:11

Two hundred men from Jerusalem accompanied Absalom. They had been invited as guests and they went along innocently, for they knew nothing about the matter.

2 Samuel 15:12

While Absalom was offering the sacrifices, he sent for Ahithophel the Gilonite, David’s counselor, to come from his hometown of Giloh. So the conspiracy gained strength, and Absalom’s following kept increasing.

2 Samuel 15:13

Then a messenger came to David and reported, “The hearts of the men of Israel are with Absalom.”

2 Samuel 15:14

And David said to all the servants with him in Jerusalem, “Arise and let us flee, or we will not escape from Absalom! We must leave quickly, or he will soon overtake us, heap disaster on us, and put the city to the sword.”

2 Samuel 15:31

Now someone told David: “Ahithophel is among the conspirators with Absalom.” So David pleaded, “O LORD, please turn the counsel of Ahithophel into foolishness!”

2 Samuel 15:34

But you can thwart the counsel of Ahithophel for me if you return to the city and say to Absalom: ‘I will be your servant, my king; in the past I was your father’s servant, but now I will be your servant.’

2 Samuel 15:37

So David’s friend Hushai arrived in Jerusalem just as Absalom was entering the city.

2 Samuel 16:8

The LORD has paid you back for all the blood of the house of Saul, in whose place you have reigned, and the LORD has delivered the kingdom into the hand of your son Absalom. See, you have come to ruin because you are a man of bloodshed!”

2 Samuel 16:15

Then Absalom and all the men of Israel came to Jerusalem, and Ahithophel was with him.

2 Samuel 16:16

And David’s friend Hushai the Archite went to Absalom and said to him, “Long live the king! Long live the king!”

2 Samuel 16:17

“Is this the loyalty you show your friend?” Absalom replied. “Why did you not go with your friend?”

2 Samuel 16:18

“Not at all,” Hushai answered. “For the one chosen by the LORD, by this people, and by all the men of Israel—his I will be, and with him I will remain.

2 Samuel 16:20

Then Absalom said to Ahithophel, “Give me counsel. What should we do?”

2 Samuel 16:21

Ahithophel replied, “Sleep with your father’s concubines, whom he has left to take care of the palace. When all Israel hears that you have become a stench to your father, then the hands of all who are with you will be strengthened.”

2 Samuel 16:22

So they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof, and he slept with his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel.

2 Samuel 16:23

Now in those days the advice of Ahithophel was like the consultation of the word of God. Such was the regard that both David and Absalom had for Ahithophel’s advice.

2 Samuel 17:1

Furthermore, Ahithophel said to Absalom, “Let me choose twelve thousand men and set out tonight in pursuit of David.

2 Samuel 17:4

This proposal seemed good to Absalom and all the elders of Israel.

2 Samuel 17:5

Then Absalom said, “Summon Hushai the Archite as well, and let us hear what he too has to say.”

2 Samuel 17:6

So Hushai came to Absalom, who told him, “Ahithophel has spoken this proposal. Should we carry it out? If not, what do you say?”

2 Samuel 17:7

Hushai replied, “This time the advice of Ahithophel is not sound.”

2 Samuel 17:9

Surely by now he is hiding in a cave or some other location. If some of your troops fall first, whoever hears of it will say, ‘There has been a slaughter among the troops who follow Absalom.’

2 Samuel 17:14

Then Absalom and all the men of Israel said, “The advice of Hushai the Archite is better than that of Ahithophel.” For the LORD had purposed to thwart the good counsel of Ahithophel in order to bring disaster on Absalom.

2 Samuel 17:15

So Hushai told Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, “This is what Ahithophel has advised Absalom and the elders of Israel, and this is what I have advised.

2 Samuel 17:18

But a young man did see them and told Absalom. So the two left quickly and came to the house of a man in Bahurim. He had a well in his courtyard, and they climbed down into it.

2 Samuel 17:20

When Absalom’s servants came to the woman at the house, they asked, “Where are Ahimaaz and Jonathan?” “They have crossed over the brook,” she replied. The men searched but did not find them, so they returned to Jerusalem.

2 Samuel 17:24

Then David went to Mahanaim, and Absalom crossed the Jordan with all the men of Israel.

2 Samuel 17:25

Absalom had appointed Amasa over the army in place of Joab. Amasa was the son of a man named Ithra, the Ishmaelite who had married Abigail, the daughter of Nahash and sister of Zeruiah the mother of Joab.

2 Samuel 17:26

So the Israelites and Absalom camped in the land of Gilead.

2 Samuel 18:5

Now the king had commanded Joab, Abishai, and Ittai, “Treat the young man Absalom gently for my sake.” And all the people heard the king’s orders to each of the commanders regarding Absalom.

2 Samuel 18:9

Now Absalom was riding on his mule when he met the servants of David, and as the mule went under the thick branches of a large oak, Absalom’s head was caught fast in the tree. The mule under him kept going, so that he was suspended in midair.

2 Samuel 18:10

When one of the men saw this, he told Joab, “I just saw Absalom hanging in an oak tree!”

2 Samuel 18:12

The man replied, “Even if a thousand shekels of silver were weighed out into my hands, I would not raise my hand against the son of the king. For we heard the king command you and Abishai and Ittai, ‘Protect the young man Absalom for my sake.’

2 Samuel 18:14

But Joab declared, “I am not going to wait like this with you!” And he took three spears in his hand and thrust them through the heart of Absalom while he was still alive in the oak tree.

2 Samuel 18:15

And ten young men who carried Joab’s armor surrounded Absalom, struck him, and killed him.

2 Samuel 18:17

They took Absalom, cast him into a large pit in the forest, and piled a huge mound of stones over him. Meanwhile, all the Israelites fled, each to his home.

2 Samuel 18:18

During his lifetime, Absalom had set up for himself a pillar in the King’s Valley, for he had said, “I have no son to preserve the memory of my name.” So he gave the pillar his name, and to this day it is called Absalom’s Monument.

2 Samuel 18:29

The king asked, “Is the young man Absalom all right?” And Ahimaaz replied, “When Joab sent the king’s servant and your servant, I saw a great tumult, but I do not know what it was.”

2 Samuel 18:32

The king asked the Cushite, “Is the young man Absalom all right?” And the Cushite replied, “May the enemies of my lord the king and all who rise up against you to harm you be like that young man.”

2 Samuel 19:1

Then it was reported to Joab, “The king is weeping and mourning over Absalom.”

2 Samuel 19:2

And that day’s victory was turned into mourning for all the people, because on that day they were told, “The king is grieving over his son.”

2 Samuel 19:5

Then Joab went into the house and said to the king, “Today you have disgraced all your servants who have saved your life and the lives of your sons and daughters, of your wives, and of your concubines.

2 Samuel 19:7

Now therefore get up! Go out and speak comfort to your servants, for I swear by the LORD that if you do not go out, not a man will remain with you tonight. This will be worse for you than all the adversity that has befallen you from your youth until now!”

2 Samuel 19:10

But Absalom, the man we anointed over us, has died in battle. So why do you say nothing about restoring the king?”

2 Samuel 19:11

Then King David sent this message to Zadok and Abiathar, the priests: “Say to the elders of Judah, ‘Why should you be the last to restore the king to his palace, since the talk of all Israel has reached the king at his quarters?

2 Samuel 20:6

And David said to Abishai, “Now Sheba the son of Bichri will do us more harm than Absalom. Take your lord’s servants and pursue him, or he will find fortified cities and elude us.”

1 Kings (5)
1 Kings 1:6

(His father had never once reprimanded him by saying, “Why do you act this way?” Adonijah was also very handsome, born next after Absalom.)

1 Kings 2:7

But show loving devotion to the sons of Barzillai the Gileadite, and let them be among those who eat at your table, because they stood by me when I fled from your brother Absalom.

1 Kings 2:28

When the news reached Joab, who had conspired with Adonijah but not with Absalom, he fled to the tent of the LORD and took hold of the horns of the altar.

1 Kings 15:2

and he reigned in Jerusalem three years. His mother’s name was Maacah daughter of Abishalom.

1 Kings 15:10

and he reigned in Jerusalem forty-one years. His grandmother’s name was Maacah daughter of Abishalom.

1 Chronicles (1)
1 Chronicles 3:2

the third was Absalom the son of Maacah daughter of King Talmai of Geshur; the fourth was Adonijah the son of Haggith;

2 Chronicles (2)
2 Chronicles 11:20

After her, he married Maacah daughter of Absalom, and she bore to him Abijah, Attai, Ziza, and Shelomith.

2 Chronicles 11:21

Rehoboam loved Maacah daughter of Absalom more than all his wives and concubines. In all, he had eighteen wives and sixty concubines, and he was the father of twenty-eight sons and sixty daughters.

Psalms (1)
Psalm 3:1

O LORD, how my foes have increased! How many rise up against me!